Parenting Choices and Critiques: A Closer Look at the Controversial Topics

I've never considered myself one of those "bio-eko-organic" moms, but maybe, just maybe, I'm somewhere in that spectrum. I'm not obsessively fixated on it, but given a choice, I aim to make environmentally-conscious decisions that align with our values. Little did I know that this journey would come with its fair share of raised eyebrows and pointed questions.

Wooden Toys vs. Plastic Toys

Yes, I admit it—I have a soft spot for wooden toys. Why? Well, there are several reasons. They tend to be more educational, fostering creativity and imagination in ways plastic toys often can't. Sustainability-wise, they're a winner, and their durability means they can survive even the most enthusiastic play sessions. But here's the catch—not everything comes in a wooden version.

It didn't take long for the "all-or-nothing" mentality to kick in. Friends started questioning my choices. So, when I get asked, "Are you going to get wooden balls for your ball pit?" or "Will you use a wooden play mat?" I have to say no, because, let's face it, some things just aren't feasible. I found myself explaining that it's about balance and making choices that work for us. Have you had similar experiences? How do you handle the relentless inquiries, like, "Why do you have a wooden activity cube if you don't have a wooden swimming pool?"

Educational Videos and Screen Time

While we're on the topic of parenting choices, there's another controversial area I'd like to touch upon—educational videos and screen time. I've already delved into this topic in a previous blog post, "Let's Talk: Are Educational Videos for Our Tiny Ones Really That Bad?" In that post, I shared my thoughts on striking a balance between screen time and other activities that foster development.

As parents, we're like navigators of our kids' digital world. Research shows that the key here is balance. Little brains are like sponges, and a sprinkle of educational content can be okay.

Bottle Feeding vs. Breastfeeding: The Unseen Struggles

Another topic that often sparks intense debates in the realm of parenting is bottle feeding vs. breastfeeding. We never truly know what lies behind each family's choice. For instance, I initially intended to exclusively breastfeed and was determined to make it work. I'll save the details of our breastfeeding journey for another post, as it's a story all on its own.

Suffice it to say, breastfeeding didn't come easily for us, and I struggled with feelings of guilt. However, it's important to remember that each child's journey is different. Our little boy is healthy and thriving even on formula, and that's what truly matters. I know it's a sensitive topic when someone asks why I'm not breastfeeding with a judgmental look, as if I'm a lazy mom who opted for formula. Yes, I intend to try breastfeeding again with our future children because I've learned that every child is unique, and their journeys are distinct.

Childcare Choices: Balancing Career and Parenthood

The choice of childcare is a multifaceted decision that often hinges on personal circumstances, career goals, and parenting philosophies. Some mothers are eager to return to work as soon as possible, driven by a desire to maintain their careers, financial independence, and a sense of identity beyond motherhood. For them, daycare centres or hiring a nanny may provide the necessary support to pursue their professional aspirations while ensuring their child is well cared for during working hours.

On the flip side, there are mothers like me who are determined not to miss a single milestone of their child's development. This path often involves making significant career adjustments, such as transitioning to work-from-home roles or exploring opportunities that allow for greater flexibility. I consider myself fortunate to have found a way to work from home while caring for my little one, but I understand that this isn't the right choice for everyone. Each family's circumstances, priorities, and values are unique, and the decision about childcare reflects these individual factors.

The Homemade Baby Food Adventure

Now, let's talk about another front in the Mom Judgment Wars—baby food. I'm proudly in the camp that believes in the magic of homemade goodness. It's not just because it's often healthier; it's also friendlier on the wallet. Plus, with the time I have on my hands, why not make it from scratch? But that doesn't mean we never touch store-bought options. Life happens, and sometimes those jars from the store are the practical choice. However, I've made it my mission to scour those labels, seeking out options with no added salt or sugar. I know how tough it can be to face judgment, even from family members who disregard our choices and attempt to feed our baby boy processed food and sugar behind our backs, who sometimes label you as overprotective or "too much" for your parenting choices. It's a balance that works for us.

Sugar: The Sneaky Foe of Modern Diets

Speaking of sugar, it's a contemporary menace, isn't it? Research has shown that excessive sugar consumption can have alarming effects on our little ones. It's linked to an increased risk of hyperactivity, obesity, dental problems, and even the development of chronic health conditions later in life. t's a stark reminder that our choices matter.

So, we've chosen to steer clear of sugar as much as possible. Instead of sugary, fruity yogurts, it's natural yogurt and fresh fruit. There's no room for juices or sugary drinks; just good ol' water, which, surprisingly, he loves. Why add sugar when it's not needed? We've waved goodbye to sugary snacks, but yes, on occasion, we've let him taste ice cream, try a pretzel, or even nibble on a fry from McDonald's. It's about balance, not perfection.

Facing the Judgment: The Mom-to-Mom Critiques

Now, let's address the elephant in the room—judgment. "Didn't you say he doesn't eat sugar?" Here's the deal—I don't judge anyone else for their choices. Why? Because we're all striving to do what's best for our little ones, and our paths can diverge. So, shouldn't we be supporting each other instead of casting judgment? As we face the judgments and questions from others, let's choose empathy and encouragement over criticism.

To all the incredible moms out there, as we journey through the maze of motherhood, let's continue to stand by one another. Whether it's our choices of toys or our decisions about baby food, we're each charting our unique course, doing what we believe is best for our families. Remember, we're all navigating this complex journey with love in our hearts and the best intentions for our children. So, as we face the judgments and questions from others, let's choose understanding and support over criticism.